Happy Monday

I have a few thoughts for today however I’m going to do my best to limit this to one. How do you know if someone is a true friend or is only using you?

Do you hear from the person frequently or are you always the one making contact? Through high school and college I found myself thinking oh all these friends I have, yet they were simply “hi how’s it going” types of friends. These are the type of people who aren’t going to be there for you when something goes wrong. They want to have you as a friend however you are always the first one or only one making contact.

“We always go out but I pay like 80% of the time…what’s up with that?”
This is called someone is just using you for money. Now if you always make a point to say only 1 check or I have this, then don’t complain… It’s your own fault. But if the person always says hey can you get this one? Then you may have encountered a mooch. This type of person is keeping you around for perks of the friendship but not giving in anyway to benefit you.

Do you have a person who will call you at random times just to see if you are okay and how things are going? Do they truly care about your feelings? This one can be tricky. Either 1 they want to hear the juicy gossip or 2 they genuinely care about you. If they really do care the you know you have a good friend. If they pick you for information about what is the word on the street then they don’t care about you…they really are just looking for a way to make their life not to look as bad or crazy.

I knew someone a while back that would call to see how things were going and knowing that I was going through some stuff kept dwelling on the bad things and didn’t care to hear the good things like how my child had learned something new at school. She would continue to ask questions to pry into my personal life and then go behind my back and tell the rest of the world. This is what I call a noisy snoop friend. You have to be very careful of these “friends” because they are only out for themselves.

So you may wonder how many friends do I really have? If you take away the users and the skallywag want-to-be friends, you’ll probably have about 10 people you can say you can really count – if you are lucky!!!

So next time you go around people you think are your friends take a moment to look at the situation as an outsider. Can you trust them? Would you do anything for them, as would they for you?

Remember you’ll find true friends in your life but make sure to keep the “others” at a distance.

Signing off for tonight and sending love to my true friends!!! Thanks for reading!
R